that girl allison

I’ve written once about this guy recently and I debated over the last week or so, “Can I stay friends with him?” I thought he was a really great person at one time; really smart, helpful, caring, open, very knowledgeable.  After yesterday I knew I’d been mistaken, and I was incredibly happy about that and over him in about 10 minutes flat.  He’d once told me, “You have self-esteem issues, but I think being friends with me will help that.” The couple of guys who’ve heard that have all responded the same way, “That’s such bullshit! He’s just trying to keep you around.” It clicked: Oh, wait, yeah, you guys are right.

I haven’t been speaking to him all week, but I haven’t defriended him on Facebook yet either. I put out a question to my friends asking whether or not it was healthy to eat eggs for breakfast every morning. A friend who sees a nutritionist commented, my dad commented, and then he commented. A few minutes later one of my oldest best messaged me on Gchat, “Who is {insert name}? He’s SO dumb. He’s completely wrong.”  She explained to me why, and because she’s all about not engaging people who seemingly refuse to change their minds, she commented back telling my dad he was absolutely right.  

My best friend, mind you, is a physicians assistant. She knew better than anyone else commenting what was right and what wasn’t because she went through two grueling years of PA school and was a biology undergrad too.  The guy was fighting that cholesterol (whether high or low) really factored into how healthy a person was and didn’t mean anything in the big picture. He was also fighting that there was no correlation between high cholesterol and heart disease.  He asked anyone reading my FB to send him an article stating the above and my best friend did instantly, telling him it was “old news.”  Apparently, she explained, he was thinking about from a psych 101 point of view and he obviously didn’t know how to read a medical journal.  To be fair, I don’t either, but I’m not preaching on the internet to other people with false facts. I am fully aware of the information I don’t know and I readily admit it.

The guy wrote back once more, and my dad and best friend were tired of engaging with him so they ignored him and he replied a second time, obviously looking for a reaction to feed his ego.  My best friend remarked, “If he wants to have high cholesterol, let him. I officially dislike. You don’t need him as a friend, or anything else.”

So, I shouldn’t necessarily be happy about the fact that he’s a generally misinformed human being and wasn’t the all-knowledgeable demi-god that I thought he was, but I am.

Nobody’s perfect and I stand accused.